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Synchronicity and the Signs

Have you ever experienced the following? Imagine this. You are looking for a job for ages. You have tried every office in the neighbourhood and every time you go on a job interview, you are not selected. Confused and hurt you are stay at home and feel totally useless about yourself. You wonder where your life is heading and you say to yourself "fuck it, I will just let go and see what happens, what I try to do doesn’t change a bloody thing." A day later your friend from another town rings up. She tells about her life and you tell her how terrible you feel. She claims to know a friend, who knows a friend, who just needs someone with your expertise. You go there and you are hired. You find yourself a great apartment in the region and feel your life is full of energy again. Does anything in this small story relate to you? Have you ever felt the need to let go, and surprisingly, life seems to sort it out for you? That is the magnificent subject of synchronicity at work. We try to organize our lives too much. We want to be in control and thats exactly what Western society is teaching you. We are all individuals, we are all in charge of our own life and we should follow our own cause, even when it means to go over someone’s back. Right? Well, partially, but foremost wrong. Success is not the most important thing in life, because success in something you don’t really cherish, or you are good in anyway but doesn’t mean a thing to you, is not making you happy. Gaining success while devastation someone else is never going to make you feel good in the end. We true are all individuals, but we are all part of a greater part, a greater energy that we all share. When you start to think like that, your compassion for the people around you will grow, you will understand how life evolves and why people make the choices they make. You find everyone has a reason for being who they are. Finally you will start thinking better of others and better of yourself. These are the bricks to build your life on and find your own purpose in life.

This is, in a very fast and conclusive way, the way your life could be when trying to let your Intuition lead you. I loved the way writer Isabel Losada described our intuition. The moment when you feel your mind offer a kind of warning, you ignore it most of the time. Be honest we all do. We have completely reasonable logic in our heads, all kinds of information, to do our feelings off as not important items. Isabel calls these warnings "red flags". It is like your mind is waving at you and you ignore it. It gives out several warnings, one red flag after another, when you are about to make a mistake. Most of the times you can sense everything seems to go wrong but you insist to put through, for reasons like "I don't want to let my friends down or I will not argue with my husband tonight about the front door being draftee." Your mind gives you hints but you still want to ignore all the red flags you've just been given. The friends suddenly all change plans or are cranky after all your effort of coming and for not mentioning the draftee door you are rewarded with burglary. It can be even worse. These are just tiny examples but it can also be worse, for example you ignore all the red, purple and even yellow toxic warnings in your head and result in great mistakes like taking the wrong job or buying the wrong house. Big mistakes which are not easily turned back. Thankfully we all need these experiences to learn from them and learn to value our instincts. In the Western society, we don't tend to let "our feelings get to us". Feelings, after all, are for women and over sensitive men, and not to be talked about. However it seems that business men and women who tend to use their feelings and intuition, seem to be the most stable managers. They make the wisest decisions when crises alerts and keep companies above water. Most of them even have thriving business because they listen to their so-called gut feelings. Actually, most Asian businessmen value feelings and gut instincts. They even visit fortune tellers or send for feng shui experts before making big decisions or placing an office. So it seems, Asians are very good business partners, although might a bit to formal for Western standards. We should take an example in this way to use gut feelings, both at business level and for personal growth. After all one cannot exist without the other.

This gut is definitely no nonsense, it is your mind being alert of a mistake or opportunity you are about to make or miss. Carol Adrienne tells us in her book "The Purpose of Your Life" many success stories of people that were just living the expected life, living expectations of others or just doing what they thought was demanded of them. They felt miserably, out of place and had no energy whatsoever. After getting in touch with themselves and what they, themselves, really want, they listened to their feelings and set up own small companies, started to work what they cared for, and became glorious, inspire-ring people, with beautiful stories and a good life. Some made enough money to do all they want, some just got around but were happy after all those years. It seems to be just where you are aiming for. These success stories show that taking lead in your own life, but at the same time giving synchronicity a chance to guide you, does pay of greatly. Some people are born with the feeling they have a purpose in life. When not finding this purpose they get lost, unhappy, feeling trapped in this social rhythm they clung in. They feel like they have to work really hard doing something they don't want to put up with to be a happy person afterwards. Money does buy you a lot and you do need it, but do you really need that car the company gives you? Yes, you have to go to work. Do you need the enormous house and superb kitchen? Of course, you have to compete and be accepted by colleges and neighbours. If you can find yourself in this, then think of how trapped you are in other people's expectations of you. Now ask yourself this, what do you really want? What do you want in life? Are you thinking about right now? Well there's a start. Make a list for yourself what you find worthy and rewarding in life and what you don't. Sometimes you have to go throught things you don't like to get to the point where you can begin to start your own way. Don't let it demotivate you but instead focus on the things you do find worthy and rewarding and try to combine those two. I never said it was easy, but give it a try. This will be all for today.

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