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 23 To present you with a good choice in 3 things; 1. Chuse such a one as will be subject to your dominion. Take heed of yoking yourselves with untamed heifers. 2. Chuse such a one as, may sympathize with you in your affliction. Marriage is just like a sea-voyage; he that enters into this ship, must look to meet with storms and tempests, 1. Cor vii. 28. " They that marry shall have trouble in the flesh." Flesh and trouble are married together, whether we marry or no; now a bitter cup is too much to be drunk by one mouth. A heavy bur- then is easily carried by the assistance of other shoulders. Husband and wife should neither be proud flesh nor dead flesh. You are fellow-members, therefore should have a fellow feeling. While one stands safe on the shore, the other should pity him that is tost on the sea, Sympathy in sufferings, is like a dry house in a wet day. 3. Chuse such a one as may be serviceable to your salvation. A man may think he hath a saint, when he hath a devil; but take heed of a harlot, that is false to thy bed and of a hypocrite, that is false to thy God. 2dly, To those women who have hus- bands, how to use them. In two things, 1. Carry yourselves towards them with obedience. Let their power command you, that their praise maycommand you. Though you may have your husbands, hearts, yet you must not have their heads; as you will his love, so you should love his will. Till the husband leaves commanding, the wife