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18 MAXIMS FOR MARRIED GENTLEMEN.

1. There are two ways of governing a family. The first by foree-the otherr by mild and vigilant authority. The first is brutal, and you certainly lose your happiness in adopting it. The second will occasion you to be respected, and your direetions to be observed. A husband deserves to lose his empire altogether, by making an attempt to force it by violence.

2. Never contradict your wife ; you never did so before marriage, and do not begin it now. There is something so harsh about contradiction in a man, that it always generates an unkindly feeling. It prevents that confidenee which ought to exist between married persons ; and confidence destroyed, we cannot hope for much good after.

3. You cannot possibly have a better or trustier confidant than your wife. She will always advise for the best, and very safely too. Trust her wholly.

4. Be strictly moral in your conduct. How can you pretend to be a guide to your house, if you are not ? Consider what you would think if your wife would become immoral in her conduct.

5. Be as attentive in reason after marriage as you were in courtship. Attention to your wife is respect to yourself ; it is her due, and slows clearly that you do not regret your choice.

6. Pride yourself only on those qualities which a man ought to possess, and give your wife credit for hers. You ought to have a manly understanding ; but remember that infers no superiority over the lady's.

7. When your wife has given you couneil, which, from your knowledge of the world, you judge cannot safely be acted on, do not reproach her, but convince her by mild reasoning that it is inappropriate. Give her always the merit of good intentions.

8. Should your wife be out of temper, do not see it ; there are many little vexations, you know not of ; never speak harsbly to her, nor be rude.

9. Be careful in your choice of friends ; you have one that will never desert you ; cherish her.

10. Dress well aceording to your station in society ; be neither a sloven nor a dandy. Commend your wife's taste in dress, and you may keep her heart as long as you like. Nothing so much secures a lady's good will as this, and it is a very slight sacrifice made at the altar of her vanity.