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 shame a man, can try his soul, and sometimes she will disgrace herself and him.

Are you interested merely in a pretty face, or a charming feminine figure, or pretty ways? They have a tremendous power to keep us from seeing through them into the character behind them.

I am trying to save you from unhappiness, trying to take the gamble out of marriage for you. It cannot be done wholly, but one can avoid a lot of trouble by trying to see his girl as others see her, and especially in her adaption to him.

Love makes us blind. We see the other one as we want them to be. We marry our ideal. We invest them with virtues that exist only in our mind.

Be sure you are right. Know what you want. But realize this that no man under heaven has the ability to avoid a mistake altogether. I believe there is a Divine power that rules over human life and can keep us from an unhappy marriage if we will only ask for guidance and will not be pig-headed in our purpose to have our way.