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 "Yes."

"Which parent?"

"My father."

"Did he give you a thorough briefing?"

Pause. "Yes, it was brief." Pause. "And it was thorough."

"What did he tell you?"

"You want his words?"

"Yes, if you like."

"He said, 'Everything goes.'"

However, such free spirits as this one are relatively rare in our society. Usually more instruction is needed. Taboos against sexuality have characterized Western civilization. The art of love, therefore, seems to me to be largely the art of getting over societally induced ignorance, superstition, and inhibition.

Here's how I view the matter. When through the methods employed in this section or through therapy one has at length achieved psychological maturity and therefore vaginal orgasm is no longer blocked, an examination of some of the technical information about love-making can be helpful. Before that point, such lore tends to lead to an inhibiting self-*consciousness.

It is generally agreed by students of the matter that spontaneity in sexual relations must never be lost. Married life tends to impose a rather rigid pattern in all areas of living. Such routinization is a necessity if the world's work is to get done. For most people, for example, it becomes necessary to breakfast every day at the same time, in the same place, and in the same manner. If one allows this to happen to sexuality one is imprisoning the unicorn, exposing love-making to a loss of its magic.

Variety is the spice that married love often needs, and it takes no great effort to be various in love-making. It takes