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 would be, if the men have low ideals or are uncongenial; if the conditions of living are not such as to commend themselves to you, or if for any reason you feel that you have made a mistake, the only wise thing to do is to say so frankly and to ask for release. The member of another fraternity, however, who comes to you and either by open statement or by more subtle suggestion attempts to bring about dissatisfaction in your mind as to your choice or tries to persuade you that you should join his fraternity because it is a superior organization, is doing a dishonorable thing no matter who he is or what fraternity he represents. Before you are pledged any one may enter the contest for your favor; after you have put on a pledge button of any social fraternity, whether it be national or local, anyone who approaches you in an attempt to win you away from the organization of your choice is doing wrong, is not playing the game fairly, and he should not be listened to. If you break your pledge, it should be your own act.

If social conventions require that a widower wait a decent length of time after the death of his former wife before he takes another, so fraternal conventions are best honored when a man who has broken his pledge with one organization shows his good sense by not rushing headlong into another. Having made a mistake once, he might better give