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with whom we come into contaf't, and, perhaps in a few pas­ sionate and exalted natures, all men Fverywlwre? 7J r!1P anf'ients had their three kind5 of friendship, 'for the sake of the pleasant, the useful, and the good :' is the last to be resolved into the two first; or are the lwo first to be included in the last? The subject was puzzling to them: they muld not ay that friendship was only a quality, or a relation, or a vlftue, or a kind of v1rtuF; and tlwy had not in the age of Plato reached the pomt of regarding 11, likf' justice, as a form or attribute of virtue. They had another per­ plexity : 8) How could one of the noblest feelings of human nature be so near to one of the most detestable corruptions of it? ("P· Symposium r8o ff., 2r8 ff.; Laws VIII, 8JS ff.).

Leaving the Greek or ancient point of view, we may regard the question in a more general way. Friendship is the union of two persons in mutual affection and remembrance of one another. The friend can do for his friend what he cannot do for himself.

He can give him counsel in time or difli. ulty; he can teach him

'to see himself as others see him·; hecan stand by him, when all the world are against him; he can gladden and enlighten him by his presence; he 'can divide his sorrows,' he can 'double his joys;' he can anticipate his wants. He will di::.cover ways of helping him without creating a sense of his own superiority; he will find out his mental trials, but only that he may minister to them. Among true friends jealousy has no place: they do not complain of one another for making new friends, or for not revealing some secret of their lives; (in friendship too thue must be reserves;·l they do not intrude upon one another, and they mutually rejoice in any good which happens to either of them, though it may be to the loss of the other. They may live apart and have little intercourse, but when they meet, the old tie is as strong as ever according to the common saying, they find one another always the same. The greatest good of friendship is not daily intercourse, for circumstances rarely admit of this; buton the great occasions of life, when the advice of a friend is needed, then the word spoken in season about conduct, about health, about marriage, about business, the letter written from a distance by a disinterested person who sees with clearer eyes may be of inestimable value. When the heart is failing and despair is setting in, then to hear the voice or grasp the hand of a friend, in