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Be the FRIEND and not the tyrant of your family. Show children that you love them, and they will love you in return. Treat them with con- fidence, and they will open their hearts to you. At the same time, do not let a mistaken tender- ness prevent you from administering correction when necessary. Remember, that he that spareth the rod hateth the child;' but take care that REASON, not PASSION, direct the punishment. For a simple accident, however vexatious and distressing it may be, your child is not account- able; for carelessness let him be reproved; for wilful neglect or disobedience let him be whipped. Let your children clearly understand that you punish them not to gratify your own humour, but to perform a necessary though painful duty to them, and that you CHASTEN them because you love them. Neither promise, nor threaten at random. What you promise, punctually per- form; what you threaten, rigorously inflict. Let not your child say in his heart, 'My father deceives me.' I know you too well to suppose that you would be guilty of the meanness of a       lie in your intercourse with your equals, but I        fear you have not been accustomed to be so nicely scrupulous in your management of your children; and yet you cannot commit a greater error than to tell an untruth. If, for your own convenience, you fall into a habit of alarming them into obe- dience by frightful stories or other falsehoods, they will not fail to find out the deceit, and they will learn both to imitate and despise you. All trick and cunning in education is detestable.