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Rh fully concealed, the habit of saying some hasty little word that was subdued, and the undesirable method of being unpunctual and a bit careless that was hidden—all these are gradually discovered during the first year of one's married life. And no matter how much a wife may suffer (and she certainly will) she must learn to control herself, and to bear as much as possible with her husband's weaknesses. The advanced woman may think that this sounds very weak and not at all progressive. Perhaps it is not, but very certainly it is the only way that one can become a good wife, and a happy one.

Perhaps the husband you so much love is inclined to be untidy; to throw a scarf there and a piece of soiled linen here; to lay a book down where it does not belong, and to leave a pile of photographs in disorder, so that it really requires some trouble to arrange them. Now the wisest thing to do is to say nothing about the careless ways, but after the lord and master has departed to take a little time to put everything back in its place. It is much better to give that time and that little extra work than it would be to find fault, for while the first words of fault-finding might be listened to with a certain amount of