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156 to which you can devote your time for a while, and disappear, either on a veranda, to the library if there is one, or, if there is no other place, to your room. This gives your hostess time to arrange her household affairs, to plan out the day, and when she is ready, be sure she will come and seek you. It is possible that you are visiting the daughter of a household, but whether it should be the mother or the daughter the time for disappearing should be observed, because, naturally, each will have duties that need attention. You may be very sure that a judicious absence will be appreciated by whomsoever you may be visiting. But then, too, you must be ready to do whatever your friends may desire, and, my dear girl, show that you are satisfied with the arrangements made for your pleasure.

SOME OF THE MISTAKES When you are a visitor yourself remember those guests who were joys to you when you were acting as hostess, and those whose visits were a continual misery. In very few households can the general arrangements be so upset that the washing of a visitor's linen can be done in the house, her clothes brushed or her shoes looked after. Now, taking my advice, you will ask your hostess to recommend you a laundress, and if someone in the house does have time enough to do you one or