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 band in everlasting "shopping." What she can save by her industry and discretion will be equal to the income he brings home. This will secure his respect and his confi- dence. To her he will unfold his plans, relate his success and his failures; and hand in hand, in mutual encourage- ment, they will walk the "long path," through the myste- rious avenues of happiness, and generally to the goal of success.

Educate your sons to virtue, and to the habit of regard- ing woman, not as a fading flower or a divine statuette, but as a noble fellow-creature. And, if he marry, let him know her as a helpmate, who has her rights in the contract. Let him be taught that he is not to be the autocrat, and she his serf; but that they are equal, each attending to the department suited to his kind, each department being a part of the whole; that in her he should confide, not only because it is his will, but because it is her right; that the fidelity, interest, and compliance he exacts from her, he should feel she has the right to exact from him; that, be- fore he transgresses, he should think how he would like it should she transgress likewise.

Parents who have boys and girls to rear should take care not to make odious distinctions; and those foolish mothers who dote upon their sons, and allow them privileges not granted to the daughters, raise bad husbands. The boy who has been educated to regard his sister as inferior to himself is not likely to put a greater estimate on a woman when he is wedded to her.

How is harmony of temperament and education, so essential in married life, to be found out before marriage? Certainly not under the present system of betrothal be-