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Rh women smoke if they so desire. However, one should always be considerate of the rest of the party and, if it is objectionable to them, should refrain. There are a few tea rooms and such places where the management requests that women not smoke. A woman should never smoke in a public place if by so doing she makes herself conspicuous.

Q. Is it improper to eat the lettuce upon which a salad is served?

A. Inclination may guide a person. The lettuce may be eaten if one chooses.

Q. Does a woman usually have any difficulty in getting rooms at an hotel if she is unaccompanied?

A. It is sometimes difficult and embarrassing, therefore it is always better for a woman to write or telegraph to the hotel and engage rooms in advance. It is also better not to arrive late at night.

Q. Is there a right and a wrong way to offer a tip to an hotel chambermaid?

A. A recent article on hotel etiquette says that the most tactful way is to offer the money in an envelope.

Q. How should a club sandwich be eaten?

A. A club sandwich is eaten with a fork after the toast and other ingredients have been broken. In doing this one uses a knife and fork.

Q. Should a woman allow a man not a relative to pay for her meals on a train?

A. A woman travelling alone may properly accept the invitation of a male acquaintance for one meal in the diner. If the trip extends long enough for more meals en route, she should not take additional meals with him, or if she allows him to accompany her, she should pay for her own meals.

Q. Should a woman permit strange men on the same train to converse with her, or to take her to meals in the diner?

A. It is not improper for a woman to converse briefly about the trip, the scenery, or such matters with courteous men she may encounter in the observation car on long trips. She should not encourage such an acquaintance by accepting an invitation to a meal, unless the acquaintance is established by mutual friendships to such a degree that she is certain the man is one she would care to have as a guest in her own home. It is always proper to decline attentions from a stranger, but on long trips there is no occasion to repulse casual conversation on general topics.

Q. If an acquaintance is met at the station or on a train, should he be allowed to buy tickets, pay tips, or perform other such attentions?

A. A woman may permit a male friend to buy her ticket and check her baggage, but should insist on paying him for the ticket. He may properly assume minor tips.

Q. Should a gentleman sit with a woman friend on a train?

A. He may properly sit and talk with her on the Pullman, but is not expected to spend the entire trip talking to her. It is more thoughtful for him to leave much of her time for herself, while he visits the smoking car. Long, tiresome conversations are not required as a courtesy.

Q. Should a man making a chance conversational acquaintance with a woman who is travelling alone, ask to