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Rh realism of the play. It also informs the management of the success of the entertainment, and is a guide to selection of offerings in future. The actors cannot hear it, but they learn through the theaters which parts are applauded, and it is a help in their future productions.

Q. Is it good form to write to motion picture actors or actresses?

A. It is perfectly proper to write to them compliments or suggestions about their plays, or to ask for a photograph or autograph. It is not good form to write in a personal vein, or ask personal questions, or attempt to start a correspondence. A good rule is to write to actors or actresses nothing different from what you would wish to receive or to have your sister or brother receive.

Q. Is evening dress proper at a motion picture theater?

A. Formal dress is not required at the movies. It is not out of place however in the evening, but elaborate jewels or striking dress should be avoided.

Q. Should a person change to a better seat during a picture show?

A. Moving to a better seat is customary between films. The ushers will help you find a seat in the part of the theater where you can see best. Moving during the showing of a film without the assistance of an usher is disturbing to many of the patrons.

Q. On entering a cafe does the woman precede the man?

A. If there is a waiter to assign the table, the woman follows the waiter. If not, the man goes first and chooses the table.

Q. When entering a cafe does a woman take the first chair pulled out by the waiter?

A. When a woman is dining alone with a man she should take the first chair offered by the waiter. If there is a party the host or hostess usually indicates seats for the guests.

Q. When dining with a man does a woman give her order direct to the waiter?

A. No, the woman tells her escort of her preference and he in turn gives the order to the waiter.

Q. Is it correct in any circumstances to put one’s elbows on the table?

A. It is permissible in a public restaurant, particularly where the music makes conversation difficult, to rest one’s elbows on the table when leaning over to speak to one’s table companion. Elbows are never put on the table while eating.

Q. When dining in a cafe if food is brought in individual dishes is it correct to place dishes in one’s plate and eat directly from them?

A. When food is served in such dishes it should be eaten directly from them. The dishes should remain on the table approximately where they have been placed by the waiter. In no circumstances should a dish be placed on the plate.

Q. Just what is the proper position of one’s left hand during a meal when it is not being used? Should it rest in the lap or lightly on the edge of the table? Also what is the proper position of both hands when waiting for a course to be served?

A. When at table the left hand remains in the lap if one is not using it to hold his fork. When waiting for a course to be served both hands should rest in the lap. This rule is not strictly