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 motionless, and very many, it would seem, have none at all. In the first place, have a heart; then have it in the right place; after that you will be all right. Scandal, if an invention, is sure, like children, to grow rapidly. The more improbable, the faster its growth, and the more readily credited by a majority of people. Folks let fiction in at the front door, with all sorts of ceremony, but kick fact out at the back door without any. Sunshine is good; so is cloud. No man — we will not say woman — can live on sugar. Wheat without chaff would be monstrous. All good has streaks of evil, and for the end that good may be presented in cheerful contrast to evil. A little adversity, a little opposition, a little care, some trouble,— these are an advantage. Such cultivate and develop us. No year is made up of summer, and he is a fool who thinks it is. .

We are too far in the nineteenth century to require to be told that the affections act and react with tremendous force upon our physical as well as mental and moral structures and constitutions; nor that so-called wives and husbands frequently become absolutely and unequivocally poisoned by the repulsive spheres of their respective mates. In marriage land to-day non-assimilation of tempers, temperaments, spheres, joys, sorrows, pleasures, and pains, is the rule, while the converse is the exception. We are more highly and finely organized than were our ancestors, and far more susceptible to impressions of all kinds, and, like a good watch, are very easily thrown out of gear, become tired of our mates, restive under the ties which bind us, and long for what will fill the aching void, whose exact nature we do not precisely understand. An opinion largely prevails, emanating from wretched quacks, that the weak wife will extract the life from the strong husband, and vice versa, which, in some sense, is partly true. But magnetisms, like all other invisible things, are graded, and the weak wife and refined woman finds no attraction in the coarse husband, and wholly fails to draw the slightest vitality from her strong and burly lord; but that lord is certain to draw from her the finer magnetism of her body, and fattens on it, while she drops graveward day by day, because she cannot consume his coarse strength, but he delights in feeding