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Rh what a number of promiscuous young men acquaintances, who are unknown to her parents, a popular young girl can pick up. Girls should discourage the attention of young men who are unknown to their mothers and fathers. They can do this by the simple omission of an invitation to call at their homes.

On being introduced, people shake hands or not, as they choose. Two men usually do, and the hostess and host shake hands with a new acquaintance in their own home. But many people, especially ladies, shake hands only with near relatives and intimate friends. But if you do shake hands, do it heartily, with a firm clasp. A hard grip makes the victim wince, but a limp, flabby hand is about as pleasant to hold as a fish. A lifted arm, drooped finger tips and feeble wagging is an affected travesty that is, happily, going out.

NEVER USE A FLIPPANT TONE
A flippant "how-de-do" or a "happy-to-meet—you", said as mechanically as a talking doll would say it, do not recommend anyone to a new acquaintance. You are not required to say anything—a smile and a bow are sufficient—and an air of deferential attention is more eloquent than many words. If you do speak, say something simple and cordial. When you introduce two people, mention something in which both are interested. or make a graceful comment that starts the conversation naturally.

It is the gentleman’s privilege to ask for an introduction to a lady, but it is the lady’s privilege to ask a gentleman to call. It is a very great compliment for a mother with an attractive young daughter to say to a young man: "We shall be glad to see you in our home. My daughter and I receive every Tuesday."

ETIQUETTE OF VISITING FOR HOSTESS AND GUEST
When guests are invited to stay in the house, it is now the custom to ask them for a definite time—a week, a fortnight, or a week-end—that is, from Saturday to Monday. A week-end house party in a large country house, where there is driving, motoring, boating, tennis, golf, skating or other out of door amusements, is a jolly affair. The guest should be told what train to take and then be met at the station. She should accept at once, go when she is expected, and leave when the limit of the visit is reached. In this day of many