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408 to them, weak and selfish of you to expect anyone to help you bear yours. In the evening hours everybody under the home roof should be happy and free from care—the members of the family, those who are employed to work for you, and the guests who are visiting you.

As it is unjust and unkind to make extra work for mother or the maid, boys and girls should never forget to wipe their feet on coming in, hang up their wraps and put their school books in some regular place. If they want to go into the kitchen to make candy, in the evening, they should not leave a dirty stove, saucepan and sink for the cook to clean. Good girls will not stay in a family where the children are saucy and troublesome, and that makes it harder for mother.

Americans are the most nervous, restless people in the world. The very hardest thing for an American child to do is to learn to sit still; but if you could see a French lady sitting prefectly still, listening attentively and smiling, you would think what the French call "repose" a beautiful thing. Children should learn not to fidget, rock, drum with their fingers, tap the foot on the floor, cross the legs and swing one, jump up and down, squirm in a seat, bit the nails or lips or twist the face. All these are nervous habits. There are children in every schoolroom whose lips and fingers and feet are never still, and whose foreheads by scowling and lifting of the eyebrows, have become as wrinkled as a washboard. And haven't you seen a serene, self-controlled lady whose face is unlined at sixty? As your face does no work it should stay young at least as long as your body. The only kind of wrinkles that are excusable before old age, are the crow's feet around the eyes that are made by laughing.

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A SURE TEST OF GOOD MANNERS
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You can always tell if a family uses good manners all the time, by the way an old person is treated. In that matter of respect and tenderness for the old we could not do better than imitate the Chinese. In Great Britain, as you have seen from the example of the Irish home, the oldest member of a family are treated with the greatest honor. In Sweden the grandmother has a special sofa and